Guys, please try to be more than a Hot Body

I've said this before, but I'm going to keep saying it because this is still an issue. Men, you need to build your skill set up just as much as you do your bodies.

I'm still hearing how guys (especially in LA) have these hot bodies, but everything else is broke. Somebody please stop being nice to these guys and let them know the truth. If these guys' skill set is sloppy, tell them to clean that up.


These days, guys have to come fully packed like a new car. Everything has to be 'cute', not just the body, but the mind, the heart and soul. Oh sex too, you have to know how to work it. No one wants sad sex... That's a dealbreaker.

But back to the main point. Make sure you are the full meal deal and not just a shiny object. You will go far if you present yourself as a worthy catch. And for the guys who gets caught up in a healthy looking body, try to get caught up in a health spirit and heart. Those are hot things too.

Do Gay Men Talk Funny? Research Says So

In an interesting study, gay men actually speak differently from straight men. I mean in someways we do, not many straight guys sound like Harvey Fierstein. But this study goes in detail about how we pronounce words and stuff.

A new study from Ohio State University psychologists reports that the average person can, more often than not, tell the difference between gay and straight male speakers. The secret, they report, is in the vowels. Seven gay men and seven straight men were asked to record monosyllabic words for the researchers. The recordings were then played back for subjects of the study, who responded with whether they thought the speaker was gay or straight after hearing the first letter sound of the word, the first two letter sounds, and the entire word.

It wasn’t until the first two-letter sounds, which generally included a vowel, that the subjects’ guessing accuracy soared. The listeners chose the correct orientation 75 percent of the time.

Erik C. Tracy of Ohio State, lead author of the study, said:

I’m not sure what exactly the listeners are responding to in the vowel. Other researchers have done various acoustic analyses to understand why gay and heterosexual men produce vowels differently. Whatever this difference is, it seems that listeners are using it to make this sexual orientation decision. … We believe that listeners are using the acoustic information contained in vowels to make this sexual orientation decision.

Again, it's interesting. Check out the rest of the article and study.

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Study says Gay Men are more at risk for Cancer than Straight Men

I came across the interesting bit of news. A study in Cali-Cal says that we are in a greater risk of cancer than our straight male counterparts.

Check it out:

Few cancer studies investigate how sexual orientation might affect cancer risk and survivorship, often because study participants are not asked about their sexual orientation. In Monday's study, researchers used a large health survey conducted by the state of California - in which respondents were asked about their orientation - to examine the impact cancer may be having on gays and lesbians in the state.

The results show about 8% of gay men had experienced a cancer diagnosis, compared with only about 5% of straight men. Among straight women and lesbians, the cancer prevalence trends were more closely matched.

Researchers speculate the increased cancer prevalence among gay men is associated with HIV status.

"There's a higher prevalence of HIV positive men in the gay population, and we know that being HIV positive is related to cancers, so this might drive the differences we found," said study author Ulrike Boehmer, an associate professor at Boston University School of Public Health. Anal cancer, lung cancer, testicular cancer and Hodgkin's lymphoma are more prevalent among men who are HIV positive, Boehmer said.

The study found gay men were also more likely to get cancer at a younger age than straight men – almost 10 years sooner – at the age of 41, on average.

I hope there more research on this information. It's a hard pill to swallow.

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Out’s First Annual Sex and Love Survey Results

If you didn't know, OUT magazine is still around and they just did a survey. When I got a look at it, I couldn't help but raise an eyebrow just a little.

Certain things were surprising to me, for example, many guys have had an open relationship. I mean I know guys do, but the numbers were higher than I thought. And many guys still do the good old role play stuff, I though that fazed out in the 90s.

I will leave link at the bottom, but here are some highlights

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Where did the rumors about Batman & Robin being Gay Lovers start?

I just saw a feature about the book, The Seduction of the Innocent. This book basically painted some our beloved superheroes as all types of things.


Like Superman being a fascist, Wonder Woman being a virgin and a lesbian, and how Batman and Robin played hide the salami every night.


I looked at several pages and it's an interesting read. In fact, the pieces about Batman and Robin being lovers.


GFest highlights some of these 'findings'

• "Bruce Wayne was rich. Several of Wertham’s patients said they wanted to live with Bruce and be rich too. "It is like a wish dream of two homosexuals living together" (p. 190). Here Wertham proposed that Bruce’s money was an aphrodisiac."

• "Alfred served lavish meals and kept Wayne Manor filled with freshly cut flowers. This is called stereotyping. So we will address this point immediately and say that a person’s attitude toward flowers or breakfast is not a gender-based or gender-defining characteristic."

• "Batman and Robin spent a lot of time caged, trapped or tied up while the other tried to save him. "Like the girls in other stories, Robin is sometimes held captive …. They constantly rescue each other from violent attacks by an unending number of enemies. The feeling is conveyed that we men must stick together because there are so many villainous creatures who have to be exterminated. They lurk not only under every bed but also behind every star in the sky" (p. 190-1). Wertham argued that danger could be stimulating, and that in the wrong circumstances that stimulation could take a sexual turn. He called such stories "erotic rescue fantasies." They were intended, he said, to make Robin more devoted to Batman than to anyone else on earth."

• "Bruce and Dick must be homosexual because there were no women in their home. The underlying assumption was that these were sexually active characters and that, lacking appropriate outlets for their passionate urges (i.e. wives) they were compelled to sate those urges with each other. In response let the record show that Robin had been born a boy because the creators didn’t want their moral crusader living alone with an adolescent girl. They were trying to avoid even the appearance of wrongdoing. They had not anticipated this alternate interpretation."

Interesting... weird, a little sexy thinking about Bats saving Robin, training him, telling him about wet dreams... Okay, I'll stop there.

Europe According to Gay Men

I saw this interesting post on MDW's blog

I guess I have to see this for myself.